Genuine remorse looks like consistent action over time, not a single emotional apology. Someone who is offering a million, “I’m sorry’s” is most likely not genuine, but rather just guilty and apologetic because it will make them feel better. If your partner is only sorry about getting caught, or sorry you're upset, this is not the same thing — and the difference matters more than almost anything else in early recovery.

If your partner's porn use feels like cheating, you're not crazy. Learn why betrayal trauma makes these feelings real and how healing can begin.